I dislike Cliques. And unfortunately, Groups get classified or misidentified as Cliques. Groupthink is trash, and its deception is why I've been super skeptical and why I present that way with a lot. IF the space does not encourage character development, self-actualization, research, uplifting/empowerment - Asset-exchange, then 9/10 I'm not adding myself to it. If I like someone and I notice their following idolizes them, I keep my distance. It is what it is. Now, if the center of that movement discourages groupthink and all of that idolizing, then great - otherwise, nah. I remember being someone who wanted to belong for quite some time - and while many people inherently want to belong, I realize that the older I am, I get to ask myself "why?"
To feel validated.
Annnnd the desire fell out of my hands and shattered into a million pieces on the gravel. I left it right there. I looked back on how far I've come - I've looked at how great my life is, and said to myself that for the rest of my life, I will live in Gratitude for my life and everything in it that hasn't even unfolded before me.
To me, that is equivalent to turning my direction towards the Creator and having a conscious exchange of life for the releasing or giving up of things that I don't need. It is a direct "transaction." It makes you untouchable.
And then of course, I see Chief Yuya's Post further confirming something I've been thinking about. ANU is something I've spoken about - I'm enrolled in ANU Spiritual Training - "soft" completed the course (lost all of my assignments since switching computers) - I mention "soft" completed because I'm not at the level of teaching it to someone else yet.
I'm grateful that I've never been a part of any group, specifically in the spiritual community that was centered on Cliques, deception, manipulation, and blind following. ANU has always been about the tough stuff - and again, it's why I reference a lot of Chief Yuya. Teachings (and Spiritual Consultation) from ANU have assisted me greatly.
Now rather than ask myself, "Why do I want to belong?" I ask, "What can I bring to a group? What can I offer? Is it for all involved?" Are you willing be an asset and also teachable?
Totally different perspective.
If you're a "Follower" of someone and they're not creating Leaders out of you, and not leaders of the populace, but leaders of your own life, then perhaps you need to reconsider their occupancy.
We all belong - by default. The feeling of belonging is one thing - but there's bonds to be made all over the world. Are you willing to relocate if that's what you need to do? Have you considered that the bonds you'd like to make are possible outside of your neighborhood?
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