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Along my mind's journey when filming B/ue Robin's Root of Love Art show at the Urban Art Gallery in Philly, came the topic of Love, Self Love and the Love in person-to-person relationships. Ayo.Creations, in the middle of my podcast recording sent me a message on IG to check out Chief Yuya's Podcast Episode on Love and its transitory nature
Let's rewind a little, though.
I always associated love with "romantic" relationships first, as a lot of us have. Raised by the media lol. Later, I learn that Love is in RELATIONSHIPS of all kinds: familial, friendships, associations, and etc.
However, what is Love? It's been found so hard to Define, because everyone's definition is different. Love is something expressed through certain actions (some have recently heard of Love Languages): gifts, acts of service, physical affection, words of affirmation, quality time.
Some less common: Correction / Constructive criticism.
What is love BEYOND human thought, though? Can we comprehend it? Is it called love? Is it attraction, attachment, and the creation of something new? Is love to only be understood through experience?
Of course in the name of Love itself, my mind went from our first milestones or points where we connect with Love or the emotions of safety, stability, and affection (B/ue's exhibition) - to myself turning that inward and operating in "Self Love" - which results in implementing a responsible new life towards one's self that often shakes the foundation of relationships established in dysfunction or falsehood. Self Care is a mini byproduct of Self Love, by the way.
Ayo.Creations hit me up after seeing my IG Story of me sharing B/ue's exhibition and suggested Chief's podcast episode, which laid down a new path in my journey. I did a nice turn down the exploration of Love and its transitory nature, further illustrating why relationships end and how conditional love truly is in the human experience. Are we in our line of service to the general public with an unconditional love affair with the development of people, or are we in our lines of service to the general public to seek notoriety, fame, and attention?
Chief Yuya always, and I mean always, comes through with the weaponry - and LOVE.
Why "Love Coil," though? Because Love isn't static - it spirals upwards, like the Creator.
B/ue can be reached at:
Facebook: B/ue Robin
YouTube: Chief Yuya
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In keeping my word, I've decided to provide a short illustration, via iPad, of another way to look at the Ego.
It's an overused - misused - and misidentified term that people use terribly wrong, to me. For something that is never going anywhere, people sure do an amazing job of demonizing it - causing many people to be fearful of their own capabilities, abilities, and gifts. Hiding their personalities and "blaming" it as a character flaw.
The truth is, the Ego cannot be bigger or smaller - it cannot be killed - it cannot be destroyed. It leaves us when we leave this incarnation. But, there's a lot of misunderstanding of the concept introduced by my man, Sigmund Freud, and many people regurgitate misinformation unintentionally / intentionally causing "listeners" to internalize their own humanity, personalities, likes/dislikes, etc as wrong, or "egotistical."
I'm not done exploring this, as a matter of fact. People only refer to the Ego - never the ID, or the Superego.
Freud, why is that?
Question: Freud, are you rolling in your grave because I'm topless in your intellectual space? Or are you rolling in your grave because people have it horribly mistaken?
I've decided to reimagine the Ego as the ability to segregate / identify: "I am" "You are" "That is" "This is" "We Are"
All of those other things we associate the Ego with, "The shadow behind fear of change" is too much. Because of its abuse of the term, people rarely even see the terms "Healthy Ego" coexisting.
However, the ego can't even be healthy or unhealthy - it just is. It's a brain function.
So, I'd much rather discharge the term - completely reimagine it, and share imagery to provide an additional mental, thus, "emotional perspective."
I think if we reimagine the Ego, we won't see it as a pathology and use it in criticism (manipulative, criticism, that is. There's a difference).
Anyway, here's a video to assist.
I dislike Cliques. And unfortunately, Groups get classified or misidentified as Cliques. Groupthink is trash, and its deception is why I've been super skeptical and why I present that way with a lot. IF the space does not encourage character development, self-actualization, research, uplifting/empowerment - Asset-exchange, then 9/10 I'm not adding myself to it. If I like someone and I notice their following idolizes them, I keep my distance. It is what it is. Now, if the center of that movement discourages groupthink and all of that idolizing, then great - otherwise, nah. I remember being someone who wanted to belong for quite some time - and while many people inherently want to belong, I realize that the older I am, I get to ask myself "why?"
To feel validated.
Annnnd the desire fell out of my hands and shattered into a million pieces on the gravel. I left it right there. I looked back on how far I've come - I've looked at how great my life is, and said to myself that for the rest of my life, I will live in Gratitude for my life and everything in it that hasn't even unfolded before me.
To me, that is equivalent to turning my direction towards the Creator and having a conscious exchange of life for the releasing or giving up of things that I don't need. It is a direct "transaction." It makes you untouchable.
And then of course, I see Chief Yuya's Post further confirming something I've been thinking about. ANU is something I've spoken about - I'm enrolled in ANU Spiritual Training - "soft" completed the course (lost all of my assignments since switching computers) - I mention "soft" completed because I'm not at the level of teaching it to someone else yet.
I'm grateful that I've never been a part of any group, specifically in the spiritual community that was centered on Cliques, deception, manipulation, and blind following. ANU has always been about the tough stuff - and again, it's why I reference a lot of Chief Yuya. Teachings (and Spiritual Consultation) from ANU have assisted me greatly.
Now rather than ask myself, "Why do I want to belong?" I ask, "What can I bring to a group? What can I offer? Is it for all involved?" Are you willing be an asset and also teachable?
Totally different perspective.
If you're a "Follower" of someone and they're not creating Leaders out of you, and not leaders of the populace, but leaders of your own life, then perhaps you need to reconsider their occupancy.
We all belong - by default. The feeling of belonging is one thing - but there's bonds to be made all over the world. Are you willing to relocate if that's what you need to do? Have you considered that the bonds you'd like to make are possible outside of your neighborhood?
Here's my latest Podcast episode.
Hey Lover Muffins,
I was Salvador Dalí for Halloween.
This was the first time in a LONG time in my adult life that I've worn a costume. (The last time I wore a costume... I wore a Venetian Mask for my previous job at STARS in Mount Laurel.) This was quite a time. Kendra, and her gifted hands placed the wig on me and I filmed the entire thing. We had a LOT of fun (<<<<< there's a clip there) and I filmed a short special episode for The Painted Fool's Paint House (<<<watch there) as Salvador, teaching how to paint a Sugar Skull on a Pumpkin.
That episode had some silly technical challenges. I only had one shot considering the day planned ahead so I had to make it work, but I had a great day.
Shoutout to Wolek's Famous Mustache Parlor for the Dali Mustache that I wore. I ordered it from him and he delivered it so fast. I LOVED the mustache. That's Dali's signature look - the mustache. Without that, I couldn't have been Dali. So, Mr. Ron Wolek pulled through. Great time. Peace be upon Salvador Dali.
Later in the day, I spent time with some friends and members of the South Jersey Young Democrats Black Caucus at an intimate gathering. The costume was FOR that event actually buuttt the mustache fell off in the car - so I just went and enjoyed myself.
Yo, when it was time to LEAVE?! I tore that phucking wig OFF and debated not even showering to go STRAIGHT to sleep. I was up EARLY in the dawning the entire day - I was worn out. Completely done. But I managed to take care of that AND complete my facial regimen to sleep like a child.
Here I am. Grateful - woke up feeling like a million bucks.
It's Dia De Los Muertos so, I spent some time honoring my ancestors (more specifically, my esteemed ancestors) and I intend on spending another few hours carrying on in remembrance and celebration.
Peace to you.
Hey, Lover Muffin.
Welcome to the bonfire. The space of Authenticity.