Anger is amazing. Anger is useful. Anger is amazing when it is expressed. Anger can serve you or a group - but man, when you have the reins, anger is a baaaaad bish. Calculated. Quiet and cold. Hot, Loud and expressive. Anger can serve you WELL.
On the flip side...
Anger is not meant to be HELD within and around you for PROLONGED periods of time. It affects your life - especially if you hold it with you to sleep. Our elders told us never to fall asleep angry...science explains why.
It prolongs recovery - meaning, your hippocampus has done its job of turning that negative memory into a long term memory, making it a bit more of a challenge to get through. You may find yourself upset for a long period of time. Getting through what you need to get through will take longer. You'll still get through it.
This also applies to our righteous anger. Even prolonged periods of righteous anger are dangerous because, anger is anger. It turns you into a zealot, closes your heart, and locks your body into a rigid costume that makes it painful to separate from when Life calls you to evolve. Prolonged periods of anger increases the likelihood that you'll experience Rage.
If you're sensitive like I am, you may find that everything you feel is deep - but, sometimes negative emotions are *experienced* at a much deeper level (there's a lot of thought that takes place in these moments) and it's important that we manage our emotional health in order to keep us healthy. All of that experiencing is doing a lot mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Also, know when the emotions within your space do not belong to you.
Alright, let's chat solutions:
Deep breathing with counting. Inhale for 4 seconds, Holding for 8, and Exhaling for 8 seconds.
Time spent in front of your Shrines & Altars, at Church / spiritual centers.
For me, Yoga (affirming and releasing during the practice) , Meditation (at my Shrine & Altars), and Attention directed to my breathing helps me immensely. But most importantly, the environment for these practices must be maintained for me to do so - so, a schedule is crucial. A clean and organized space is crucial. A caffeine free, extremely low sugar diet, and a healthy digestive system is crucial. This keeps me in a cool space preventing reactionary thoughts/harmful self dialogue/a polluted heart.
Why is this important? There are billions of people around you who want you to think how they do and if you haven't experienced much and grown close to yourself, you will find yourself pressured to conform. This results in the harmful self dialogue when the comparison and contrasting happens between yourself and others. Understand that there are places that will aid you and spark the deeper awareness of yourself as it pertains to your development - but, it is important that you never fall into idol worship.
Anger is natural. Rage, on the other hand is avoidable.
Listen to the latest podcast exploring my experience with Anger, Rage, and then we discuss Righteous Anger.
Hey, Lover Muffin.
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